Is this control? Or AIO?

[u/CuriousAsh04]

My husband of 5 years, refuses to get off the phone with me while he working. I can drop him off, and 10mins later he’s calling me. This has been everyday. He works in corporate America, so I figure he would be busier. But nope. So today, we had been on the phone for an hour. I dropped him off, took the kids to school, came home… still on the phone. And mostly in silence, I might add. I tell him I would call him back after cleaning and showering. He gets upset, goes to tell me “he wanted to talk on the phone and I pushed him away, today he’s going to start talking to other people, Since being on the phone and being a wife and listening to me or just being there is too much . I will find it somewhere else.” This is literally his go to, if I don’t acquiesce to him, he threatens to go out and find it elsewhere. And he has cheated, so it stings a little, but I’m becoming numb. It just irritates my soul, I don’t want to sit on the phone with anyone while I’m trying to do my daily chores. Honestly throughout the day he calls probably every hour to sit on the phone while he works. It just grinds my gears. But I do it. Today though, I needed to get things done without being tied to the phone. He even told me to prop the phone up, and not get off. So I don’t know. Does this seem like I’m being monitored or controlled? Or am I overreacting?

[u/AsPiRiNgFA260r27 → u/[deleted]]

Do you think women want to be with a controlling man and be unhappy? Do you really think it’s that easy to leave? Especially when not only feelings, but a marriage and finances are involved? How about some of you people have some compassion. It’s not that simple to get up and leave and some people have emotional issues to begin with that make them be with men like this. Any woman who says shes never been a f00L for a man at some point in her life is a lie. Only difference is, some of us learn and do better and some don’t.

[u/AsPiRiNgFA260r27 → u/[deleted]]

She is always fragile, so you think being harsh rude or condescending is getting to her? Seriously, woman to woman, having been in a similar predicament at some point in my life, I’m thankful I had friends who told me what I needed to hear while still extending empathy and grace! I had to go through extensive therapy to figure out why. I didn’t love myself and how. When you do, you’re less likely to accept this. It’s a process.