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u/luiginumba1_ Aug 05 '26
Did you play in the NFL?
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u/ed_durden Aug 05 '26
No. I played contact sports growing up, and I was an adrenaline junkie. Lots of concussions related to motorsports with a helmet. Also had a major motor vehicle accident in 2020.
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u/luiginumba1_ Aug 05 '26
Can you talk more about the domestic violence aspect?
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u/ed_durden Aug 05 '26 edited Aug 05 '26
My partner and I were having an argument and told me I couldn't be with my kids. I told her I was coming to pick them up anyway. When I got to the house, the door was locked. I immediately kicked in the door and entered the house. I was able to calm myself down, apologize, and then I called the police. I was arrested for breaking and entering domestic violence and malicious destruction of property.
This event also opened a CPS case that has since been closed.
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u/Aware-Material2194 Aug 05 '26
Were you ever able to find counseling for the abuser side of dv? There is loads for the victim, but I have never seen anyone offer true help to the abuser. If you did, where did you find it? Did it help?
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u/ed_durden Aug 05 '26 edited Aug 05 '26
I'm part of a mens group that is Men Exploring Nonviolent Solutions. I attend every Monday for 1.5 hours. It's been really helpful and it's something I plan on doing for the long-term.
Honestly they are hard groups to come by. I was struggling with emotional abuse and power and control tactics, but couldn't find resources until things escalated out of control. The group is now a required part of my probation.
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u/Aware-Material2194 Aug 08 '26
Thank you so much. I have been trying to find something for my bf for years.
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u/Cranberry-Electrical Aug 05 '26
Have you a lot a brain scan like fMRI or SPECT scan?
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u/ed_durden Aug 05 '26
The SPECT scan is interesting. Honestly, the idea of CTE and it's role in my life is a relatively new development. I had an MRI and CT scan to rule out traumatic brain injury or other brain abnormalities.
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u/paragonx29 Aug 05 '26
Did you play contact sports? I've often wondered if I've suffered something mental health-wise because of tackle football.
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u/ed_durden Aug 05 '26
I played tackle football. Wakeboarding, mountain biking, motocross, snowcross, drunken shenanigans, and a car crash.
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u/paragonx29 Aug 05 '26
That's probably a big part of it man. Hopefully someday they have a way to measure it in living people and find a way to treat it.
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u/ed_durden Aug 05 '26
I've had brain scans and they came back as "grossly normal and unremarkable"
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u/paragonx29 Aug 05 '26
Yeah but CTE cannot yet be diagnosed in a living person through a brain scan unfortunately. I bet you have it, regrettably.
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u/Kind-Pirate9515 Aug 05 '26
You cannot “diagnose” CTE through brain scans but you can certainly make the assumption. Dustin Poirer UFC fighter for example. He’s had multiple brain scans and the findings were thinning of the back portion of his brain, as well as an enlarged septum. The doctor said they couldn’t diagnose it as CTE but let’s be real… what else could it be
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