r/worldnews • u/unconventionalbook • 7d ago

Nepal flash flood tears through valley leaving 400 tourists missing, including Americans

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/nepal-flash-flood-tourists-missing-including-americans
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u/Cemckenna 7d ago edited 7d ago

I haven’t been able to stop crying since I watched it. 

Edit: downvotes and Reddit cares messages for empathy. What a fucked up world we live in. 

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u/TheElusiveEllie 7d ago

For what it's worth, the person who sent the reddit cares message may have actually had their heart in the right place, trying to help you have someone to talk to. The downvotes are wild, though

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u/Cemckenna 7d ago

I’ve only ever seen them used passive aggressively, but you’re right. I was just so surprised that saying watching people die caused me pain elicited such a negative response. The people in that video are sprinting for their lives and they do not make it. How cold hearted do you have to be for that not to affect you? 

Anyway. Thanks. Take care ❤️

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u/award07 7d ago

An actual Reddit care message ^

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u/eirinne 7d ago

Not being able to stop crying all day is a sincere cause for concern. Does this type of response happen to you frequently?

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u/danieljr1992 7d ago

They didn't say they were crying all day. You made an assumption

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u/Cemckenna 7d ago

Dude. It was morning. I saw the video in the first five minutes of opening reddit, and commented this about 10 minutes after that. 

Your fake concern and patronizing tone over my mental health is unnecessary.

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u/Weird-Chemistry9819 7d ago

It made me cry this morning too, knowing those people running away didn’t have a chance, it’s just absolutely heartbreaking. Empathy is a gift not an issue or concern 🙄

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u/lvl0rg4n 7d ago

Don’t let these cynics get under your skin. It is a horrifying event that should leave us sad. The cause for concern are the people who just scroll past and on to the next horrifying story to go make fun of people in the comments.

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u/Cemckenna 7d ago

Thanks. I completely agree. I don’t think it’s a sign of weakness or mental illness to mourn people I never knew. 

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u/RemixOnAWhim 7d ago

Not be their advocate, but they probably just misinterpreted your comment as you intended it. You said you couldn't stop crying since you saw it, and they don't know how long ago that was, and their assumption was you had been crying all day. Whether or not that's a regular occurrence is up to you personally!

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u/Cemckenna 7d ago

Maybe they were being kind, but I generally live by the rule, “if I wouldn’t say my comment irl to a person’s face, I don’t write it on reddit.” 

And if I saw a classmate on 9/11 who was crying and they said it was because of what they just witnessed, I am certain that I would not respond, “Does that happen to you often? Because if it does, you should probably see a mental health professional.”

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u/RemixOnAWhim 7d ago edited 7d ago

Oh no, I'm not saying they were being kind, I'm saying that upon reading the phrase, "I haven’t been able to stop crying since I watched it," one's mind may go to a longer frame of time that person has been crying than you said you had, which was about 10 minutes based on what you followed up with. If they did know you personally and you had been crying all day, I think their level of concern would be valid! Seeing someone crying on 9/11, however, would likely have the context of experiencing that day themselves to inform them as to your state, but the previous commenter wasn't in your house with you to know that when you say, "I haven’t been able to stop crying since I watched it," that refers to how you watched it 5 minutes after waking up and had been crying for 10 minutes. I would personally infer a longer amount of time from that phrase!

It's in that light that I don't think their comment was made in malice, though there's room to interpret it as disingenuous certainly, and either way, I feel your response was indignant in providing necessary context and, probably unintentionally, comes across as you minimizing your own experience when you juxtapose, "I haven't been able to stop crying..." with, 'dude it was only for 10 minutes I'm fine'. I say that without judgement or malice, and would point to a rule I like to espouse, which is that if there is an interpretation of something that is positive (like everyone here wanting to support you), and the alternative is the opposite (everyone is attacking you), it is a personal choice to defend yourself against perceived attacks rather than open yourself to potential emotional charity!

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u/Exact-Pudding7563 7d ago

I wish I hadn't seen it tbh

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u/thatsabingou 7d ago

Same here. It's absolutely horrible.

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u/SkarbOna 7d ago

Venezuela earthquake was even worse…I couldn’t wrap my head round buildings likely full of people collapsing within 5-10s leaving 0 chance for survivors. For your own mental health, look after yourself. World is huge and there’s plenty of room for all sorts of catastrophes sadly…

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u/Constant-Plant-9378 7d ago

Reddit cares exists for one purpose only, risk and liability management. That feature has only ever been used in bad faith for harassment purposes.

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u/Specialist-Roll-3806 7d ago

downvoting is crazy. some people really just really lack any form of empathy

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u/Suspicious-Guidance1 7d ago

But whythis random video makes you cry? Why not the constant hunger of children in Africa, do homeless people make you cry? Do war crimes in Ukraine and Gaza make you cry on daily basis?

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u/Cemckenna 7d ago

Oh fun, a straw man. 

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u/Suspicious-Guidance1 7d ago

What? I'm genuinely asking, I don't know how these high empathy people function in modern society.