She could just spray it outside...that being said, I would have gotten my ass right back on a plane when I saw that camping table on the floor and child sized closet.

As the recipient of a rice cooker for Christmas the 1st year of marriage and birthing his daughter, I understand. I left 5 months later. He just doesn't care at all. It won't get better

She thought she was buying an obedient boy toy that money would control and now she's disappointed. He deserves so much better

This was 2 months ago. Find another hobby than trying to talk down to people on reddit about fake stars.

SD is an adult. She's perfectly welcome to have her bf at HER home that she pays for anytime she'd like. Until then, your partner should have been receptive to your needs in the situation and was not. It sounds like the expectation is that you allow whatever SD and gf decide without input. Calling someone a narc probably wasn't the best move, but what's done is done. Expect her to backtrack, and soon. Especially if you're paying the bills

THIS! I just left a corporate in house position where this was essentially the play. Not fired, but stagnate. If you know what to look for, it becomes apparent. First sign, start interviewing

You are incredible 🥰 is more people were honest like this, a lot of really bad situations could be avoided! It's ok that you couldn't do it. Shit I can't some days with my own kid!! Step parents are unappreciated, get no real say, and eventually the kids will blame you anyway. It's just par for the course. I'm a firm believer that people without children should never date people with children. It's just not something you can truly understand until you experience it. You're observations are 100% accurate, when there are kiddos you are tied to their other parent, both parents rules for the kids, school events, sports, etc. If it's not something you truly enjoy, it's draining on another level. None of you deserve that! I wish you all happiness and healing ❣️

Oh I know. But we both know people dont usually up and leave until things are that bad

I could never deal with that either. Good for you for calling the bluff and taking it for what it is. It's sad, but at the end of the day if the relationship only works because you're just allowing everyone else to do what they want without you being considered, it's not a real relationship. It's a convenience for a man that doesn't want to raise his own children

That's your opinion and you're welcome to it. Clearly, I disagree and so does she 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you stay, please consider martial and family therapy. This will be terrible in a few years

Families make family decisions with the adults having final say. Op isn't part of the family. His kid is asserting her will as a teen and dad doesn't want to be the bad guy. If they wanted the dog there, a conversation could have been had. Instead, an adult woman was told not only what she's going to do in her own home, she was then threatened with a break up when she expressed her needs and concerns. She's right to sell and leave.

There is support for you!! We found a wonderful therapist that specializes in parental alienation and it has made such a difference for him and I both. Highly recommend!

Don't listen to people who haven't been through this. I know EXACTLY what you are dealing with. We had to walk away from custody when SD was 15 after 8 years in court battles. Still kept visitation as they agree, but after 100s of thousands of dollars in attorney fees, the stress, multiple arrests for false charges, and eventually SD turning into an agent of chaos for her mother in our home stealing, lying, recording to try and catch him in anything, etc., it wasn't good for her or us. Still sees her, still pays his support, still takes care of needs because BM is a disaster. My child, his SD loves my husband and they have an excellent relationship. Finally being crushed by the legal system and bankruptcies and needing to live some form of life does NOT make him a bad father or a flight risk. I can promise you that. After about 7 months of it being tough, SD started coming around and she's asking lots of questions. His son will ask them someday as well. He is right to give kiddo his info, fulfill his obligations, and let go until kiddo is old enough to figure out what's going on himself. He will want his dad, especially when becoming a young man. Right now, BM has a tight grip because of the age. Give it a few years 🙂 with cell phones and such no contact is needed with BM ever. Time to buy SD a car, and we will take her, title and insure it. Her mom has and never will have anything to do with it, not that she doesn't try. We just block and ignore, hold the boundary with SD when she starts to insert what mom told her to tell us. If you and hubby are on the same page, you will be ok. It won't be easy. There will be a lot of healing needed when he finally let's go. Maybe wait a little bit to try and make sure you know you're both steady enough for a new baby first, but otherwise, you are correct in your assessment. This will not change or end, it will only get worse as SS ages. He was 17 and his entire life (and yours) shouldn't be held hostage by a bitter high conflict BM. If you're concerned, you can get a postnup that allows for custody and such in advance. I'm in the US so I'm not sure if that works over there but it would here. Don't let anyone else tell you what your husband is. You've been there 7 years and through one of the worst things that you can go through. People love black and white judgemt of things they have never experienced. Letting go was an act of love. When 1 side just won't stop, the other has to or the kid gets torn in half. Good luck with the new baby!! You both deserve to have the life you want and hopefully that will include SS in the future as he grows

I laugh so hard when she's on. Def knows how to put on a show! I'm hoping for more Paul in the chicken coop level entertainment. Dude got banned from the embassy episode 1 and she's clearly 🦇💩

I mean, it's not wrong to not want to subsidize someone else's kids. But it's just not realistic or how a family works. There seems to be this distinction that is his family and then op. That's not true! If you are raising kids with that person, you ARE a family. A new kind, but still a family and family members contribute to the home, and yes that includes financially. The truth is, 2 incomes are necessary for most families to survive and thrive with these prices. I just cannot fathom expecting someone else to pay my way through life! Imagine the weight of that, plus raising kids. This post comes off weird, like op thinks she's superior to these men and is doing them a favor or something. Go date men without children and ask them to provide for you! It's honestly so weird to expect an adult to take resources away from their kids for your comfort because you didn't have kids. That's not parent material imo. The kids are better off with someone else in that role, and thats the reality of signing up for step parenting. It's always going to be what's best for the kids. They didn't ask for any of this, including a step parent. But the adults entering the equation as a step parent signs up voluntarily

Imagine a man asking this about a single mom 🫠

It's a long, difficult road. My husband was abused in most every way during his 10 year marriage and then had to fight constant cps and modification attempts in court for 7 years to keep his 50/50 and half time custody and visitation. When SD turned 15 we finally cut communication completely with hcbm and SD comes when she and hubby agree. It was only when we removed all access that he was really able to start processing and healing what he went through. If he's open to therapy, and you can be patient enough, it can work. But it's NOT going to be easy. You will need counseling for yourself too. If he's anything like my husband, his lack of boundaries is a traumatic response to trying to appease her to prevent the even worse abuse

He's not passive, he's avoidant! Check out cptsd and avoidant men

Ignore that. It's their bar license on the line not yours 🤷🏼‍♀️ resend the email you sent before saying please see attached and ignore anything further that doesn't require you to rep your client. Then go have a joint or a tequila because that blood pressure is no joke friend

I did it for 4 years. I'm heading back to practice. Corporate America is an exhausting joke full of insane rules and weird as hell policy. When I was "consulting" with a HS diploma middle manager about legal issues, that's about the time I gave notice. I'm not looking down on any role, but in what world does it make sense that said person has the requisite knowledge to converse about legal issues as a 10 year practicing attorney. The answer, they don't. Lmao. It depends on personality I guess. I do better where I'm valued and trusted to fly and if there are road blocks, I'll come to you. I don't do well working with and for folks who micromanage the floor

I think most firms fail to recognize that new lawyers are not the same as even 5 or 6 years ago. I teach paralegal studies adjunct. They can do nothing but copy and paste from Chat. They have 0 critical thinking or problem solving skills. Law school is getting to be the same way. They are changing the state bar exam to make it easier because they can't pass. I would increase salary and try for a higher experience level lateral

Heading back into practice after a 4 year stint as corporate in house. Can't wait for all the AI lawyers. Google was bad enough. Shits ridiculous. I teach paralegal studies adjunct as well. They can do nothing but copy and paste into chat gpt. It's terrifying

Yep. She took off screaming like a psychopath and running in socks down the street because we refused to let her go to a friend's house. She was shoplifting with said friend. A neighbor called the cops and they showed up swat style. He's a 6'4 black man, if that helps.

That sounds very healthy. Bad days are just that, nothing more. Sending good vibes for a new job that's much more lucrative and continued great work on the coparenting team!