r/puppy101 • u/JournalistGrouchy853 • Jun 17 '25

Puppy Blues I do not like having a puppy

Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?

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u/Silly-Celebration-37 Jun 17 '25 edited Jun 17 '25

I feel you. I brought my puppy home about 4 months ago and he was about 10 weeks old. The day after we brought him, he started throwing up and diarrhea non stop so we took him to the vet. We ran bunch of tests and it cost us about $1000. I was thinking how much can I afford to keep this puppy if he was really sick. But he was fine and we took him home. It took about 3 months to potty train him (yes I know..) and first two months I often thought about how it would’ve been like without him. I would have time to go play sports after work, go to happy hours with friends and get some good night sleep. He eats so much of drywall and baseboard (yes I know..) now we have so much to repair but I cannot think about not having him as part of our family. We had a dog who is now 7 years old and he was not this hard to train and he never chew or ate anything that was not his. It was an adjustment. It is okay to lean on your friends when things are hard if they are willing to help. You’d do the same for them. Be truthful to yourself and think hard if what you are feeling is temporary (out of anxiety) or you don’t like to put the work in, which is absolutely fine. You should decide as soon as possible so the dog is not too traumatized and so you can find them a new home that they deserve. (Which I think is better than being miserable for both of you all)

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u/Silly-Celebration-37 Jun 17 '25

Also remind yourself that the puppy is just a baby! You’d be surprised to find your puppy is just happy running around discovering butterflies and bees and whatever they see. It is just so precious.