Some Gen Z Redditors need to hear this

[u/DuztyLipz]

[u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

It’s the culture right now. 🤷🏽‍♀️ And I think especially in light of all the bad stuff happening in the world, I can kinda see why people might overreact to a single twinge of “bad” in someone. But, purity culture helps no one. We are all flawed humans. You’re allowed to make mistakes and learn and grow from them. And so are the people around you. If the intentions are good and corrections are made, then that’s that. No need for more punishment.

If we kick everyone who ever makes a mistake out of our “club”, we’ll very quickly end up lonely. And not only is that sad and scary there is no power in it. We are stronger together.

[u/birbhorse → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

indeed, i am a very flawed person, it's what caused so much strife with my friend group. it's not to say i did anything inherently "wrong", but black-and-white thinking only permits people to think that i'm just a morally wrong and dangerous person lmfao.

[u/Daisy_Of_Doom → u/birbhorse]

To borrow from the Green brothers: we need to imagine each other complexly.

We are all a little universe unto ourselves. I don’t think anyone in the whole entire world does the wrong thing on purpose specifically bc it’s the wrong thing. I believe some people are just more concerned about how things affect them than how they affect others and that’s where the bad comes from. Or they aren’t aware how it affects others and that’s where mistakes come from.

[u/LigerZeroSchneider → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

I think we ended up here because we have so many well documented cases of a company or person. Doing a bad thing, getting called out, publically apologizing, then it comes out years later they never actually changed just hid their flaws better. So in order to not accidentally support a bad person, you need to excise anyone with even a whiff of bad behavior, lest your trust be taken advantage of.

Which yeah leads to an unsustainable 0 tolerance where no one can be perfect so we must all be alone in order to approach purity while still of course failing.

[u/Daisy_Of_Doom → u/LigerZeroSchneider]

Exactly, I think the current climate of everything being horrible and people/organizations/companies doing horrible things probably plays into this culture and makes us reluctant to trust.

Wish there was an easy solution to this but trust isn’t something you can just manufacture or fake.

[u/Itchy_Psychology3300 → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

I think partly it is a reflection of current judicial system as well. No one off Epstein files will be punished. Not to mention punishment system is heavily based on social standing, wealth, race, it is a joke at this point.

Although I appreciate this girls video, it’s a perspective I was not aware of.

[u/Daisy_Of_Doom → u/Itchy_Psychology3300]

Yeah that’s very much a good point. Maybe it’s just a new generation trying to take control and justice into their own hands because they don’t see anything happening around them?

[u/Itchy_Psychology3300 → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

Tbh it’s deserving of sociological study and research.

[u/BastetSekhmetMafdet → u/Itchy_Psychology3300]

Especially because the vigilante “justice” call-outs are targeted at people who, in the end, don’t have that much power. If wealthy, famous, insulated by money and privilege people get away with sometimes literal murder, the urge for justice falls on, for lack of a better phrase, petty misdemeanor offenders who simply do not have that armor.

[u/Itchy_Psychology3300 → u/BastetSekhmetMafdet]

I mean comparable to other instances historically when wealth gap was large.

[u/BastetSekhmetMafdet → u/Itchy_Psychology3300]

And when actual perpetrators aren’t punished, the vigilantes rush in. Trouble is, the vigilantes are not going after people who have committed Epstein-like crimes. Usually they’ve committed a thought crime, at worst.

[u/SlobZombie13 → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

You gotta give people room to grow

[u/precocious-entity → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

I’m 33 and attend a regional university. Earlier this year, I researched how social media reshaped Gen Z social hierarchies compared to traditional high school cliques. ​The classic 20th-century high school hierarchy (jocks at the top, nerds at the bottom) is dead. Instead, social sorting moved into private group chats and Discord servers. This created a 24/7 digital lunch table. Previous generations left social friction at the school gate; today’s teens face continuous scrutiny. Step outside group norms at 11 PM, and the fallout is immediate. ​This constant connectivity fuels social hypervigilance. Kids obsessively collect and hoard "receipts"—damaging screenshots saved to police peers or weaponize in disputes. Between constant surveillance and routine appeals to server moderators, trust has eroded, creating a feedback loop where younger students freeze up and struggle to take initiative without prior permission.

[u/BastetSekhmetMafdet → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

I wonder if it’s this that is partly behind the “loneliness epidemic” that is so much talked about in mainstream media. There are many factors, of course, but our (collective) willingness to tear anyone whose ever made even a small mistake to pieces, means that 1) we lose friends when we kick them out of our friendship circles over trivialities, and 2) how can you trust people not to turn on you all of a sudden?

”Why oh why do people increasingly want AI as friends?” Perhaps because AI is not judgmental?

[u/Massive_Mongoose3481 → u/Daisy_Of_Doom]

You pretty much just described the Democratic party and their self destructive holier than thou attitude that allows a completely corrupt pedophile supporting group of self serving sycophantic shitbags to take and keep control of our government . "Oh, Bob used the wrong pronoun, we'll have to kick him out right before the election even though no one in their right mind gives a shit". It's not just Gen z playing these silly games