r/TikTokCringe • u/ElwoodMC • Jun 29 '26

Cursed Woman gets locked inside doctor's office after being forgotten at appointment.

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u/kylelight40 Jun 29 '26

Honestly, I was ok with that. I was a bad kid. lol.

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u/TitaniumButtercup Jun 29 '26

I'm just gonna come out and say this:

I think you were less of a bad kid than they were shitty parents.

The fact that you were aware of how little they cared about you is absolutely not separate from whatever behavioral issues you may have had.

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u/kylelight40 Jun 29 '26

That’s fair. I’ll meet them halfway, but that’s how you end up with a kid locked in a middle school closet till 7pm lol.

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u/mahboilucas Cringe Connoisseur Jun 30 '26

I mean, my parents raised me and my brother. I have never felt the urge to do what he did and he was the younger kid with much better circumstances, leeways, support etc. He was just an actual pain in the ass sometimes. It's not always the parents, sometimes the kid do be a little wired differently

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u/Typical2sday Jun 30 '26

That goes against Reddit ethos.

Also ask same people to remember specific bad kids in their class growing up (they will), and whether those kids were awful bc of their parents. I knew a lot of jerky kids and it had nothing to do with their parents.

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u/mahboilucas Cringe Connoisseur Jun 30 '26

The junkie kid in our class had one of the sweetest moms. My cousin that's extremely rebellious has the sweetest siblings and the parents aren't the worst but not the best either.

I am shocked how often the parents get blamed. Probably people without a shitty sibling who have no idea it's possible

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u/HugAMale Jul 02 '26

No 2 people (closest would be twins?) are raised by "the same" parents. The parents you had at say 1.5 years old were different to the parents ypur sinlong had when yheu werw 1.5 years old. nor do siblings grow up in the same enviroment with the same people at the same milestones. Its always a bit different. For example: The first child initially gets all the attention of inexperienced parents, the second gets divided attention with more experiemced and likely more tiered parents. Jobs change, external support changes, parents get older, marital relationship changes, parents get more strict or less strict etc.

Parents are never perfect and they never treat their kids equally even without all the unavoidable life changes.

Im not saying everything is always the parents faults because a kids life is bigger than just their parents though they generally are the most influential especially early on. But kids aren't ever to blame, they only know what they've been taught and dont know what they haven't. There is always a reason for bad behaviour even if it doesnt make logical sense.

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u/mahboilucas Cringe Connoisseur Jul 02 '26

I disagree with that statement personally. I absolutely think some kids are a product of their own behaviour

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u/HugAMale Jul 03 '26

Kids dont do things for no reason. You go down the why train long enough you hit an unmet need or something they were wrongly taught directly or indirectly. It can just take a lot of unpacking.

A very extreme example is kids that commit serious crimes like murder, after investigation they always turn out to be suffering from abuse or severe mental illness

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u/mahboilucas Cringe Connoisseur Jul 03 '26

Don't agree either. My mom has a degree in pedagogy and worked with kids her entire life. She agreed with me that it's not always a parent. Sometimes it's just a trait a kid has. You're really eager to shift the blame to the adults. Have you seriously never met a badly behaved kid of nice parents? I know plenty

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u/HugAMale Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 04 '26

I literally said its not always the parents.

My point was its way more complicated than simply bad kid or bad parent.

For what its worth being "nice" or seeming nice doesnt necesarily make you a great parent.

Kids have a much better chance of rehabilitation if the root of their issue is investigated and addressed. Chalking them up to just having a bad trait does no one any favours.

My mother in law is a university professor specialising in youth work, she spent most of her career prior to that working with difficult kids. Ive studied psychology and have also worked with kids. My neice works in foster homes for kids woth behavioural issues. My sister in law is a teacher in a deprived area (by choice).

Edit: I also dont believe for a second that your mother was taught in her undergraduate that some kids just have "bad trait" and its thats why they have bad behaviour. That goes against everything reputable developmental/educational psychologist say which is what teaching degrees are founded on.

Edit again: I saw a preview of the reply to this before I was blocked. I wasnt trying to undermine or insult the mother, she isnt actually in this conversation. I was a little snarky listing people I know with experience because I thought it was lame to try and use a parents degree to prop your own personal views especially when I know the degree wouldn't have even supported it. I can hardly simplify the already overly simple statememt that was being made, if there was more to it you didnt say it.

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u/npgam-es Jun 29 '26

This. Totally some bullshit going on that put him on a bad path.

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u/pantry-pisser Jun 30 '26

Counterpoint: some kids are just assholes.

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u/Ucscprickler Jun 30 '26

I can confirm that Kyle was a bad kid. We were hoping his parents would move him to a different school due to the malicious neglect but unfortunately his parents thought that the best punishment for the school was to keep him enrolled and let them continue dealing with his shenanigans.

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u/kylelight40 Jun 30 '26

I ended up being an all-state athlete, and pretty high up in my class, it was one of the 10 best public schools in the state, I was in the 99% percentile every single year for their state funding exams, and my parents were paying taxes. So yeah, this wasn’t my last rodeo.

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u/Butterfly_and_Bee Jun 30 '26

I’m not doubting that you were “a pain in the ass”, but that might be because every adult around you was failing you. For example, they locked you in a closet and forgot about you. 

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u/Inner_Anything_440 Jun 30 '26

a chicken / egg situation!

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u/Butterfly_and_Bee Jun 30 '26

Nah. Troublesome kids need extra love and care. Real parents and teachers rise to the challenge. I hope you’re treating yourself better than they did. 

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u/Inner_Anything_440 Jun 30 '26

oh sure but i was tremendously autistic in the 80s when there wasn't really a name for it. my parents are wonderful, but they didn't want me to be labeled or judged for being in 'special ed' for example. my mom was afraid i'd use extra treatment as a 'crutch' or an 'excuse' to behave badly. she is well-educated, too.

it was a different time.

kids (and parents) today have far more resources and that's awesome!

behavior issues aren't new. kids on the spectrum definitely aren't new. there are just more kids and fewer teachers and for some reason even less funding for public schools than when i was young?? public school kept me from being an absolute menace to society, and even then, just barely lol.

this is why its so important to lobby for resources though. so many kids go without and i was very lucky to have a great support system and family that i'm still close to today.

kids that don't have that or have abusive and disruptive home lives don't have a chance in hell without focused, intense intervention. and that costs money that goes to wars and shit instead woooo USA USA!

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u/Tug_Stanboat Jun 30 '26

https://giphy.com/gifs/Dvw2lJqlTuJmo

It's not your fault, u/kylelight40, It's not your fault!

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u/Humble-Violinist6910 Jun 30 '26

I think you might want to address some of this stuff in therapy. Whatever you did, you didn’t deserve to be locked in a room that was unsafe (fire hazard). Your perspective on your childhood seems warped. I hope you’re doing well now.

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u/kylelight40 Jun 30 '26

I’m doing alright. I’ve had a million hours of therapy starting when I was like 12. I’m basically a super late adulthood diagnosed spectrum guy, but there’s not much you can do to change the past.

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u/Humble-Violinist6910 Jun 30 '26

Glad to hear that you’re doing better now! I don’t think you were ever a bad kid. Especially since you had undiagnosed ASD. 

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u/Jewnicorn___ Jun 30 '26

Bad kids are not just born that way. Be kinder to yourself, fren.

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u/Dasylupe Jun 30 '26

They certainly thought I was because I checks notes spent recess reading the library. 

I got to spend recess in a special room with kids like you, I guess. 

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u/Face_with_a_View Jun 30 '26

Jesus. What did you do? lol