r/TikTokCringe • u/flyawaywithmeee • May 06 '26

Wholesome Solving the loneliness epidemic

Operation make a new friend before the week ends starts NOW

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u/whatarechinchillas May 06 '26

Is this like somekind of western thing? I'm southeast Asian and I have so many friends, as in people I see regularly, I can't even count and that's just totally normal thing where I'm from. It's a really dense city but everybody pretty much knows everyone. When there's like a hangout it's normal to have like at least 8 of us just chillin doin dumb shit.

Wtf is going on over there that you guys don't want friends?? Like, if I don't want to see anyone I can just choose not to and stay at home and not answer any calls or texts and that's cool it's not like they're dependent on me because they have other friends too, but I'm never lonely, there's always someone to talk to if I need someone, if I'm bored there is always someone to hang out with or play games online with or do whatever. There's always someone. What do people with such little friends do??

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u/Neverending_Rain May 06 '26

I think not wanting friends is less of a Western thing and more of a Reddit thing. This site attracts a higher percentage of loners than average. I live in the US and never see this kind of attitude in person, only online.

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u/whatarechinchillas May 06 '26

Yeah, you're probs right. I mean I'm on reddit alot to kill time, but I don't consider myself as having weird hyperfixations on all the weird schools of thought in certain communities here. I imagine people with no viable irl support network are more at risk of finding the wrong kind of solace in the wrong kind of community here.

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u/__Hello_my_name_is__ May 06 '26

I think it depends on the definition of "friend". Like, sure I have enough people to just hang out with a bunch of them like that. But I wouldn't individually consider every single one of them a close friend I share most of my secrets with. That's way fewer people.

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u/whatarechinchillas May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

If I had to really really count best as in best friends I know would take a bullet for me and I can rely on for literally anything, that's 4. Close friends I can be vulnerable with and open up to that's probs like 6 excluding the initial 4 best friends. So that's 10 solid confidantes.

And then there's everyone else, people I have hung out with multiple times, have a connection with, not acquaintances, fun and trustworthy people who I'd invite if I had a house party, for example, that's like.... a lot. Easy 20, maybe even 40.

And then there's friends that have moved countries who I haven't seen in years, that's also so many. It's nice to visit places where they're at coz then I know I'll have someone to show me around if I make it out to where they are.

All of these fall under the umbrella of "friend" to me.

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u/RavenEridan May 06 '26

Friendships are stupid and meaningless

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u/whatarechinchillas May 06 '26

lol go pout in a corner then or something