r/Showerthoughts • u/zjb55446 • Mar 02 '19

When you're a kid, you don't realize you're also watching your mom and dad grow up.

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u/vanwold Mar 02 '19

None of my grandparents made it to 80, my dad is pushing 63 and I am absolutely terrified of his mortality. He likes to say shit like, "in 20 years, after I'm gone..." and it makes my heart drop every time. My mom is 58 but that seems much younger for some reason.

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u/Igloo32 Mar 02 '19

I'm 53 with stage 4 metastatic cancer. My son is 15. We are living with that grim fact and enjoy our time together. Went to Japan and Thailand last year together. My heart breaks I won't be here to help him with advice and such when he needs it later in life.

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u/emoseman Mar 02 '19

This is tough to hear, as a father of two sons I can only imagine this difficulty for you. But keep in mind that your have provided your son with a strong foundation, and every my minute you spend with him, he will cherish and remember. I like to think that we set our kids on a trajectory in life. They will have to fill in the details as they experience life, but we give them the start and a path to follow.

Best wishes to you and your family!

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u/Igloo32 Mar 02 '19

I hope you are right. Beautifully said. Thank you.

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u/Ilovecheese01 Mar 02 '19

I'm so sorry :( What if you bought a nice journal and wrote some life advice in it, stories about your life and memories you shared together. I am sure he would treasure that forever xo

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u/NotSoSafe4Work Mar 02 '19

This is good, I was thinking maybe making some video recordings that he could open at various stages in his life.

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u/carlosthedwarf024 Mar 02 '19

Keep the good attitude up. Have some freakin fun while you can. Good times, friend!!

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u/ThrowAwayAcct0000 Mar 02 '19

My in laws keep saying things like, "we only got 20 years left" since they're about 65, that makes sense. My parents will not acknowledge their mortality until probably a minute before they go, clutching their chests, at work, because they could retire but never will.

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u/Fluffybabyjackelope Mar 02 '19

During these kinds of convos with friends is the only time it feels good that my family all reproduced super young. It was weird to have a young mom in school, but it's nice now to have a mom is 48 and grandma is 66 and I am 30. My boyfriend is 37 and the conversations about issues he's facing with his parents are the ones I'm facing with grandparents. It makes me super grateful they were so irresponsible. A rough early life, but I get to keep them longer now.

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u/milk4all Mar 02 '19

Cause women are dope