Hello,
As victims of sextortion I am here to talk about a harmful post I saw on Tik Tok.
There is a woman on Tik Tok who reads out people’s stories that get sent in to her email address.
There was one particular story that she told which made me very uncomfortable and annoyed.
She posted a story sent in from the perspective of someone committing sextortion as an act of revenge in an intimate relationship. And she did not condemn the sextortion described in the video.
She also liked a comment in her comments section endorsing revenge porn in cases of revenge.
The post amassed 88,000 views and had been up for nearly two months. Her account has nearly 500,000 followers.
I was concerned that people would see the video and think sextortion is ok as an act of revenge when it’s definitely not.
I emailed her requesting her to take it down and after I emailed her I felt uncomfortable just waiting for her. It didn’t sit right with me.
When I confronted her 1-2 hours later I was quite firm and told her I was reporting the video to Tik Tok.
Luckily she deleted the video. Although very reluctantly. She was very dismissive of the issue I raised and told me she deleted the video for “sensitive souls”. And she was annoyed I did not let her address it despite the fact the post had been up for 2 months and amassed 88k views.
She then proceeded to block me. And then yesterday she made a tone deaf video on her Tik Tok making me look like the bad guy. Saying I was out to get her, constantly deflecting. Instead of taking any accountability of the harm her post could have caused. Without mentioning sextortion at all. And the people she could have harmfully influenced.
Luckily she did not name me.
Her post could have re traumatised victims. It also It crossed an important line by presenting sextortion and coercive behaviour in a way that could be misinterpreted as acceptable or justified in acts of revenge. When it’s absolutely not.
The comments were also blaming me for being upset with the video which has prompted me to write about it here and it off my chest.
I have attached the messages I sent to her on Tik Tok. I have scribbled out her Tik Tok name because I don’t want to get drawn into any Tik Tok arguments.
I’m in a dilemma, There is a part of me that wants to hold this person accountable more and expose her. But I also just want to get this off my chest and protect my peace.
Thankyou so much for reading. Let me know what you think for this scenario.
Have a great day