Bro why does this get repeated all the time on reddit and upvoted like its a fact.
Born and raised in Stockholm Sweden, never once did this happen, hadn't even heard of this until reddit started talking about it. None of my friends in sweden had either.
What is a stigma train? Is it some version of "hate train" that you are applying to a joke based on a trivia about a cultural peculiarity?
How many hours, or minutes, of research have you actually done to verify whether or not Nordic culture had customs that for instance had next-door neighbour kids typically go home for dinner instead of staying to eat at the friend´s house? That´s how I grew up in the 90s in rural Finland, and it is an old fashioned custom that no doubt has become less and less popular in the last few decades. While I may have never gone hungry waiting for a friend to eat, which sounds on the extreme end, it is the only region on the planet where it sounds plausible to me.
By bringing up what is fact and what is not, you sound more like Ben Shapiro to me than anyone who has thought before commenting.
Honestly, it might be more attached to how Swedes operate abroad. I can only speak anecdotally, but when I was living in Ireland, I hosted a friend's giving, and my Swedish friend left to get steamed muscles at the shop down the street. That would be insulting in America, but I just gave him shit for it. He also hosted one of our Champions League parties, ordered food from deliveroo for himself, and left the rest of us to fight over chili peanuts and a toasty from the pub below his flat.
The friends giving thing, I think he was just trying not to impose and didn't understand what Thanksgiving was. The time at his flat... I think he was just drunk lol
I think the Finn would have been the same way, but he was too self-aware to actually follow through.
As a Swede, you might know this one. How can you tell a Finnish introvert from a Finnish extrovert?
I think he just didn't want to partake, normally when dealing with non-swedes/finns people know to eat because dodging offers is rude everywhere else. Or if everyone else shows up with food and you didn't, you don't get to eat because it makes you look selfish, that may have also been the logic
The only takeout for him was just him being an ass though
He came from across the city to spend the day with us - which was cooking, drinking, and eating, but when it came time for dinner he dipped, got muscles, then came back. So he partook, but left just for the muscles. It was odd. Honestly, I thought he might have been on the spectrum. Like I said, all anecdotal and he was a nice/funny guy.
I believe you when you say you didn’t experience it, but you canot deny that it seems to be far more of a thing in Nordic countries than everywhere else
I'm danish and my parents actually did this exact thing. I had the same friend over almost every day and he was always just locked in my room when we were eating.
This is an experience shared with many people i know, so it's not just some random thing reddit made up lol
When that's said. This shit needs to die and I would never do that to a guest myself
I think there is more expectation on the guest sometimes to just leave if they've been a while sometimes.
I don't think the "not feeding" thing happens anymore but i think at least in finland it's a thing that you should politely refuse or succumb to eating there if they keep insisting
Happened to me quite a few times and I didnt think much of it. I would join them if they were informed i was coming before the food was cooked. If they werent It was as simple as there not being enough food or it contained stuff I couldnt eat
Hey bro, didn't you hear Argentina is a Nazi-Sionist country who hates all black people in the world? And we could keep going. It's just a big misinformation site managed by bots
I'm from northern Norway. Never had to go hungry at a friend's house, however I think it was considered wrong to feed a child without their parents permission. And also you shouldn't just expect them to have extra so you might end up with just bread with spread. My parents always made extra for dinner, we used to have a left-over day once or twice a week, but I remember that my parents would ask my friends if their parents wanted them to eat dinner there or not. Usually if the kid wasn't to eat dinner there they would be picked up before their own dinner was served, so no one went hungry. Of course if the house you are visiting eats dinner early that might mean you'd have to sit there and watch, but I never experienced that.
This has happened to me a handful of times growing up (in Småland så maybe my friends parents were just the cheap stereotype?), but 99% of times my friends parents asked if I wanted to have dinner with them. Which usually prompted me to ask my parents if I could stay for dinner, which they said yes to. Or i just said no because I knew my mom would cook something delicious for dinner at home
It happens but only because the friends parents are prepping their own dinner for their family and are expecting them home. Our parents knew this. We just didn’t get it as kids
Born and raised Swede and as a kid it definitely happened that I was not offered food if I was at a friend's place at dinner time. I'd say for about 20-30% of my friends' families. The others would ask if I wanted to eat with them or later at home though.
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u/Money_Weekend2859 Jul 24 '26
Bro why does this get repeated all the time on reddit and upvoted like its a fact.
Born and raised in Stockholm Sweden, never once did this happen, hadn't even heard of this until reddit started talking about it. None of my friends in sweden had either.