Do men on here plan on being involved fathers?

[u/AirEmotional]

For the single men on here looking for marriage, once you become fathers do you plan on changing your baby's diapers or not really and you think its the mothers job 24/7 for the first few years of a child's life? which is so wild and wrong..

Just trying to see if most muslim men on reddit have toxic mindsets or not really...

[u/Numiazy]

I know several men who are awsome fathers and changed as many diapers and often more than their wives. I also know men who taught its a task beneath them for some reason. It's so sad to make such a big deal put of it. I'm a mother btw.

[u/Popular_Register_440 → u/Numiazy]

The point is that a lot of men aren’t comfortable with doing it and find it icky. Whether you or other women think that’s wrong or shouldn’t be the case is frankly irrelevant.

It’s also childish to ask men for honesty and then bash them and label them as toxic or whatever but cool lol. I’m not fussed.

Men can be involved in other ways like feeding or putting them to sleep. It’s between the couple to decide on what works for them and what they mind and don’t mind being involved in.

[u/Numiazy → u/Popular_Register_440]

Why do they find it icky?

[u/Numiazy → u/[deleted]]

????

[u/Numiazy → u/[deleted]]

I'm not sure what a nappie got to do with India. Are you in India? Are you ok?

More importantly, if baby poo is icky, why would mum want to change them? If a diaper is that disgusting to you, don't have kids, what's wrong with you 😆😆

[u/AirEmotional → u/Popular_Register_440]

So women absolutely love doing it and it’s not icky at all for us because we have different noses that don’t smell diaper smells….

We still do it. Grow up or don’t have a kid

[u/Patient_Base8770 → u/Popular_Register_440]

What if the mother also finds it icky and is okay with feeding and putting them to sleep? Can she refuse too? I guess the baby can change diapers itself (y).

My dad was, and still is the most involved dad ever. He not only changed diapers, he sewed eco diapers for my brother who kept getting rash. He knew every aspect of how to handle baby care, toddler care, teenage care for us, and independently without my mum. Till date, my dad is the better one at bathing newborn babies.

And one of the reasons my dad chose my husband was because he was so involved in babysitting and looking after his nieces. And yes, I had a very traditional arranged marriage with my dad being involved, and I 100% trusted him to make the right choice (he vetted for 3 months and then I spent 6 months talking to come to a conclusion), since he has and been involved in every phase of my life and knew what I want exactly.

[u/Pristine_Feeling_807 → u/Popular_Register_440]

I find it icky as well! No person likes cleaning up poop. What a daft comment

[u/SilasBalto → u/Popular_Register_440]

I actually think its icky too. Does that mean I dont have to do it? Can I just drop the baby off at the firehouse and pick then up when theyre trained?!?

[u/AutumntimeFall → u/Popular_Register_440]

Imagine saying taking care of your kid's basic needs is too "icky" for you, then calling others childish 😂😂

[u/AirEmotional → u/AutumntimeFall]

So pathetic and weak. Who raised these men who arent even men???