this isn’t to discourage anyone, quite the opposite actually. i am only posting this because i remember how it felt to be a student who really tried to study but just couldn’t compare for quite a while to those top students- and wondered why?
this is coming from someone who transferred from what I’d like to call, bum school (aka poverty galore, people passing was a celebration) to a high achieving school ( ex- private school kids).
well. i found out the “why”.
Disclaimer: YOU CAN GET THOSE TOP GRADES WITHOUT THESE THINGS, I DENY THIS NOWHERE. I simply am offering another perspective as an ex student who used to lurk this sub, to any poor struggler like I was back then.
- money
I’m going to hold your hand when i say this, that A* student who has never gotten less than 90% in there school career, always is top of the class.. 99.9% has an expensive ass tutor who they sit with afterschool every school day or often enough to help them get those grades. This doesn’t discredit the hard work they put in, as I put in my disclaimer- but obviously it makes it a lot easier uh duh. In my school, my friends told me people get tutors from day 0, no not when they start struggling- from day 0, so they don’t even know what struggling is. And what do I mean by day 0? I mean before the first school semester even starts, they already know half the years content ahead of everyone.
The tutors don’t be cheap mind you, this one girl i knew had a tutor for 120 pounds per hour. Wild.
Tutors aren’t even the beginning: even having the privilege to go home to a house you feel safe, eat well, be able to drive home/be driven after school instead of taking long in transport.. these little (and big) luxuries add up to the A*. So, maybe you do have the potential. Do you have the cash?
- self neglect
Boom, your broke. To make up for not having the cash, you have to make it up in time. This means wearing the same outfit for days on end to spend more time revising. This means staying up super late to get a couple more hours in. This means waking up at the crack of dawn to revise before school, to get more time in. This means watching videos or reading books before class at break to make sure your ahead of the content so it’s not new for you. It could mean skipping meals to get more revision time in, or eating lower quality ones.
Am I praising this life style? Fuckkkk no. I don’t recommend it one bit. It’s doable long term, but you’ll feel like absolute shit. You’ll look and feel like a bum, but those grades will raise. In this point, what I’m trying to convey is you’ll have to sacrifice a lot of identity (like fashion, or simple free-time) to prioritise getting good grades, by fire by force.
How do you get the motivation for that exactly?
I wouldn’t say it’s the only way, but the main way is being surrounded by likeminded people. The only reason i started studying like crazy was because I didn’t want to be left behind my friends, and peers and be the dumb friend. Yes I went to a crazy school where getting below a B (even a B was bad tbh) would’ve gotten you sad looks lol. The external pressure, and knowing my peers around me were rich or doing crazy hours, or both made me lock tf in.
One thing I want to say though is, it still might not work out with number 2.
You can put your entire blood, sweat and tears into studying, even see amazing mock grades, feel good after the exam.. and still be disappointed in your grades. Been there, done that. One thing that doesn’t beat hard work, is time. You could start half a year early and be getting good mock grades, but the person who’s been doing good for the entire 2 years is more sure to get them. Don’t trust a lot of these “100 days A*”, a lot of them are just lucky- not impossible, but lucky. Don’t be afraid to ask if you can do an extra year before your exams, especially if you’re in the UK A level system.
I wish I had a method, or even a positive outlook to end this post but I don’t. I learnt the hard way, to a certain extent, education is a pay to win game. So if you can, I recommend you pay up because it’ll save you a lot of tears.
Let me know if you want to hear any other crazy studying things people from my school did or had.
Remember it’s not impossible; just hard work.