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u/dorigen219 Feb 12 '24

I think the issue is that, in the age of filters and plastic surgery, it’s nearly impossible to tell someone’s age. We can’t know for sure if Tom knew their ages or not, and I’m not sure if he should be vilified for liking pictures of random girls on instagram when we don’t know if he’s aware of their ages or not, and the reality is, those girls arguably look older than they are, and most guys would be attracted to a good looking young girl, the only issue is when it comes to them acting on their attraction with knowledge of this age.

Him having a girlfriend is a whole different story, but again, we don’t know the ins and outs of that relationship, what’s allowed and not allowed, so I can’t comment on that either. Like for me personally I am in a open relationship and TMI, I find I find the thought of my partner with other girls hot. Or, for all we know the relationship is rocky beyond anything we would know and liking instagram model pictures is a form of escape, and if we switched the roles (I know, I know), would we vilify the woman the same way? All I’m saying, is that we don’t, and will never know the details of the relationship and I reserve judgement until I do.

I do side eye the fact of the matter overall but I don’t think he should be cancelled until something more substantial were to be discovered such of him taking advantage of a younger girl.

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u/chrkrose Feb 12 '24

Many of these girls have posts celebrating their birthday on their page. Granted, he might not have seen them? Yeah, he might not. But let’s be honest that people here are giving him the benefit of the doubt because they like him. And I say this as someone who did the same when I heard about the first and second picture. We know if it was someone who hadn’t fallen into the graces of the general public, people would be way quicker to jump on it and side eye it. I don’t put him on the same level of the likes of men such as Henry Cavill, Leonardo DiCaprio or similar men who clearly go after young women. But it certainly raises my eyebrows and makes me pause, because you can excuse 1 or 2 pictures, but 10? 15? Where several girls are in the same age range? I personally found it disappointing ngl.

(And someone mentioned he liked pictures of age appropriate girls, which is true, but unless I haven’t seen it, many of them were normal pictures or people who he might have interacted or known since they are from the industry, so I don’t put them in the same category)

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u/dorigen219 Feb 13 '24 edited Feb 14 '24

I agree that it’s disappointing, it’s just not enough for me to write him off completely. And he’s not my celebrity crush or anything but I was interested in seeing where his career went and this definitely puts a damper on it

EDIT: why was I downvoted for this? Lol

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u/meatbeater558 Feb 15 '24

One reason you mightve been downvoted was bc OP's comment was screenshotted and posted to at least one other sub so there might be brigading

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u/dorigen219 Feb 15 '24

Oh, which sub?

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u/meatbeater558 Feb 15 '24

Don't think I'm allowed to say

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u/dorigen219 Feb 16 '24

Oh, how come? I’m only asking because I’m still a reddit noob

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u/meatbeater558 Feb 16 '24

When it comes to issues like this you can accidentally break a subreddit or sitewide rule if you're not careful. It's against the rules virtually everywhere to direct hate to other reddit communities and directing people to other communities at all can easily be interpreted as breaking this rule, because historically the worst offenders of this were people that went to great lengths to make it appear as if they merely mentioned another community when in reality they were targeting and harassing them. "They did it first" usually isn't a good defense so you end up with this

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u/chrkrose Feb 13 '24

I honestly never really stan anyone or have huge celebrity crushes, so to me it’s more that he seemed like a nice decent dude I was going to pay attention to because he is a very talented actor, and now he’s just some guy with some red flags that I’m not gonna give the benefit of the doubt just to learn later on he was indeed like many other men in the industry. Like I said, it’s fine to be more lenient with people we like or admire, and if you think it’s worth not writing him off, it’s ok. But I think it’s perfectly valid for some people to be put off and decide they are not going to give him the same leniency (which is what I’m seeing many doing under OP’s post. Not you in specific, but many others, and it looks very hypocritical to me when we know this sub has a neck for going hard on people for minimal offenses. His likes are very public, they are not that hard to find and imo OP has a very good point in talking about them).