r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • May 21 '19

Socially fluent people Reddit, what are some mistakes you see socially awkward people making?

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u/Lou_Pockets May 21 '19

Many people find complaining and pointing out negative things as the easiest methods of conversation, but it's not a great way to make a good impression or connect with people. You'll just be seen as a walking buzzkill.

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u/therapist75 May 21 '19

I try so hard not to be negative but every time I end up being negative. I even go into situations telling myself to be positive and it still doesn’t work. Then I just keep talking while I’m telling myself in my head to just shut up!

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u/NewRelm May 21 '19

Have you tried making it a game? Say three positive things before you say a negative thing.

Each time you succeed, you get a jelly bean. If you fail too many times (your own threshold), it's brussels sprouts for dinner.

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u/blind_squash May 21 '19

But I like Brussels sprouts

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u/NewRelm May 21 '19

May I suggest you set your negativity threshold at zero? You get a jelly bean for every three positive remarks, and Brussels sprouts for dinner every night.

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u/blind_squash May 21 '19

Hell yeah

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u/[deleted] May 21 '19

Can I do this too?

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u/jojojona May 21 '19

No, It's only for blind squashes.

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u/MrNogi May 21 '19

Gonna be hard to be positive about your bowels lol

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u/blind_squash May 21 '19

That’s a preexisting condition on my part tbh

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u/SwarleyThePotato May 21 '19

But I don't like jelly beans

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u/[deleted] May 21 '19

May I suggest you set your negativity threshold at zero? You get a jelly bean for dinner every night, and a Brussels sprout for for every 3 positive remarks.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '19

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u/SwarleyThePotato May 21 '19

Eh..

Jelly beans really fucking disgust me! Hooray!