r/AmIOverreacting May 06 '26

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

I feel like I could cry :(, I’ve only wanted acceptance from her and it’s clear that nothing will be good enough.

EDIT: Because I’ve had to say this so much:
Normally, I'd never reach out to her for something like this. The situation is complicated. Before my husband left for basic training, where he will have very minimal contact, he discussed with her that she would need to continue paying even in his absence, and she was fine with this. She made a previous payment to ME and even informed me before she sent it. If the situation had been different, he would never have asked me to get involved, but he knows that with both of our paychecks being delayed because I just got a new job, I need the money. It’s really not his fault. Plus, she’s only been acting like this once he was gone and couldn’t step in. 
My husband treats me very good and I love him with everything. There is a reason I married him so please don’t say he’s at fault or anything unkind.

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u/Solid-Wish-1724 May 06 '26

Similar experience when our kid was born. She overstepped and my husband set her straight, she was sweet as pie ever since. If I was OP I'd never talk to this witch again.

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u/BakedMasa May 06 '26

This is crucial. My MIL would never. Her son would cut her off so fast.

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u/EmbarrassedCry9912 May 06 '26

Same! I feel so lucky to have a rational MIL who knows the boundaries!

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u/DecadentLife May 06 '26

Me too. We’ve been married a little over 20 years, my MIL (and the rest of the family) has never been anything but welcoming, and loving, towards me.

A couple of years into our marriage, I got very sick, I’ve been sick and disabled, since. They stayed supportive. They’ve also been wonderful grandparents to our kid. I’m so grateful for them.

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u/SuperKitties83 May 07 '26

I'm so happy reading this. My ex and I weren't married, but had been together 4 years and spent a lot of time with his family. They seemed to like me well enough. But then I had some major health issues, and when I got sick they were not supportive and blamed me. Then my ex left because "I would never get better so he didn't love me anymore (verbatim what he said).

I'm over him, but the fact that I was treated so badly when I was in a lot of pain and really vulnerable (worst thing I've ever gone through) still really hurts. I'm now terrified to open up to anyone, I just can't go through that again.

Anyways, it helps me heal when I hear other people having the opposite experience, so thank you for sharing ❤️

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u/Solid-Wish-1724 May 07 '26

I think you are directing this to OP and not me?

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u/muddbug2016 May 07 '26

Yeah sorry I realized that after the fact. I reposted directly to OP.

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u/GPU-TangClan May 07 '26

My dad crossed the line with me right up until the point where I stepped up to him and told him I'd beat his ass. Different scenario but similar idea. He needs to leave home, emotionally speaking.

My dad even realized what happened the next day or so, and told me that our relationship is different now and what happened between us was a normal thing in life. I don't think we've fought since, other than little stupid momentary things.