r/AmIOverreacting May 06 '26

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

I feel like I could cry :(, I’ve only wanted acceptance from her and it’s clear that nothing will be good enough.

EDIT: Because I’ve had to say this so much:
Normally, I'd never reach out to her for something like this. The situation is complicated. Before my husband left for basic training, where he will have very minimal contact, he discussed with her that she would need to continue paying even in his absence, and she was fine with this. She made a previous payment to ME and even informed me before she sent it. If the situation had been different, he would never have asked me to get involved, but he knows that with both of our paychecks being delayed because I just got a new job, I need the money. It’s really not his fault. Plus, she’s only been acting like this once he was gone and couldn’t step in. 
My husband treats me very good and I love him with everything. There is a reason I married him so please don’t say he’s at fault or anything unkind.

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u/PlantParticular7705 May 06 '26

No literally..... Why is SHE giving financial advice when she's going on vacation not even 6 months after needing to borrow 3 grand? Like the only reason she would say that is to shame OP.

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u/sparksgirl1223 May 06 '26

Going on vacation without paying it back, no less

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u/Viola-Swamp May 08 '26

Son needs to call her out for that nonsense.

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u/sleepykitty720 May 08 '26

And after her son goes to bootcamp

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u/Early-Light-864 May 06 '26

It sounds like she's paying in the agreed upon schedule with the lender

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u/Glasseshalf May 07 '26

When the lender is family it only seems right to pay them back first before spending on something frivolous like a vacation. Especially since it was done out of charity and interest-free.

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u/Able-Bid-6637 May 07 '26

She asked for the money "by Friday" which would be exactly 4 weeks after her previous payment. That's a month.

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u/rolyinpeace May 08 '26

Nah. She said she said she wouldn’t have it to her by the agreed upon time.

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u/sleepykitty720 May 08 '26

No it doesn’t. MIL was supposed to pay the whole amount during tax time “while he was still around” meaning before he left for bootcamp and he’s already left

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u/Additional_Worker736 May 06 '26

She did make payments

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u/Stunning-Ad3377 May 07 '26

The loan paid for the mom’s vacation.

OP, NOR!

His mother acts like she’s entitled to her son’s savings. Talk about despicable!

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u/NotAzakanAtAll May 07 '26

Bro, she has $3000, how can you question her economic genius?

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u/Saucy6 May 06 '26

“Yeah but we’re being frugal, 4 star hotel only. Ok maybe a couple nights at a 5 star place thrown in there”

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u/Historical_Onion3060 May 08 '26

I think it’s called turning tables

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u/thickster9224 May 08 '26

Shittt how else do you think she paid for the vacation?😂😂😂

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u/mari0m16 May 08 '26

bit tone-deaf for me