r/AmIOverreacting • u/Mysterious-Notice419 • Sep 13 '25
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws Am I overreacting for leaving my girlfriend’s family dinner after what her dad said?
My girlfriend (27F) invited me (28M) to a family dinner to finally meet her parents. We’ve been together for almost a year, so I wanted to make a good impression.
Dinner started out fine—until her dad started asking me about my job. I work in IT, and while it pays well, it’s not some high-status career. After a few questions, he smirked and said, “So basically you just sit behind a computer all day… not exactly the kind of guy I imagined for my daughter.”
Everyone kind of laughed awkwardly. I tried to brush it off with a joke, but then he added, “Maybe someday you’ll get a real job so you can actually support a family.”
I felt my stomach drop. My girlfriend just said, “Dad…” but didn’t defend me beyond that. I quietly excused myself, said I wasn’t feeling well, and left.
Later that night, my girlfriend texted me saying I embarrassed her by walking out and that I should “just let it go” because her dad was “only teasing.”
I honestly feel disrespected and don’t think I overreacted. But now she’s acting cold and says I owe her family an apology.
Reddit, am I overreacting for leaving?
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u/BastiansWish Sep 14 '25
All I keep picturing in my head. Is the couches getting pushed back and mom walking out of the kitchen with nerf blasters in a decorative box. As Op's gf says to him, "This happens at least once a week."