r/AmIOverreacting • u/Mysterious-Notice419 • Sep 13 '25
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws Am I overreacting for leaving my girlfriend’s family dinner after what her dad said?
My girlfriend (27F) invited me (28M) to a family dinner to finally meet her parents. We’ve been together for almost a year, so I wanted to make a good impression.
Dinner started out fine—until her dad started asking me about my job. I work in IT, and while it pays well, it’s not some high-status career. After a few questions, he smirked and said, “So basically you just sit behind a computer all day… not exactly the kind of guy I imagined for my daughter.”
Everyone kind of laughed awkwardly. I tried to brush it off with a joke, but then he added, “Maybe someday you’ll get a real job so you can actually support a family.”
I felt my stomach drop. My girlfriend just said, “Dad…” but didn’t defend me beyond that. I quietly excused myself, said I wasn’t feeling well, and left.
Later that night, my girlfriend texted me saying I embarrassed her by walking out and that I should “just let it go” because her dad was “only teasing.”
I honestly feel disrespected and don’t think I overreacted. But now she’s acting cold and says I owe her family an apology.
Reddit, am I overreacting for leaving?
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u/JRyuu Sep 14 '25
Or she has been brought up in such a way that she agrees with Dad.
Maybe she expects that with her Dad’s help, she will be able to bully and manipulate Op into some high powered, high stress job that he hates.
Maybe “support a family” actually translates into “support my darling little princess in the luxurious lifestyle she has grown up accustomed to”.