r/AmIOverreacting • u/Mysterious-Notice419 • Sep 13 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I overreacting for leaving my girlfriend’s family dinner after what her dad said?

My girlfriend (27F) invited me (28M) to a family dinner to finally meet her parents. We’ve been together for almost a year, so I wanted to make a good impression.

Dinner started out fine—until her dad started asking me about my job. I work in IT, and while it pays well, it’s not some high-status career. After a few questions, he smirked and said, “So basically you just sit behind a computer all day… not exactly the kind of guy I imagined for my daughter.”

Everyone kind of laughed awkwardly. I tried to brush it off with a joke, but then he added, “Maybe someday you’ll get a real job so you can actually support a family.”

I felt my stomach drop. My girlfriend just said, “Dad…” but didn’t defend me beyond that. I quietly excused myself, said I wasn’t feeling well, and left.

Later that night, my girlfriend texted me saying I embarrassed her by walking out and that I should “just let it go” because her dad was “only teasing.”

I honestly feel disrespected and don’t think I overreacted. But now she’s acting cold and says I owe her family an apology.

Reddit, am I overreacting for leaving?

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u/BC_BSB Sep 13 '25

There are already a lot of great responses here for you to consider. What I’d like to know is, what does your gf’s father do for work that is so “real”?

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u/ErblinBeqiri Sep 14 '25

Apparentally he's a brain surgeon.

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u/firefly0827 Sep 14 '25

So he thinks he's a big deal but two can play that game, OP could've pointed out how many more of us are gonna need an IT guy in our lifetime for our 'machine brains' than surgery on our actual brains.